NZ, how are you doing mate, was wondering where you had got to and how you were going.

I would get a gift from your S. I am taking my S shopping in the next few days and I will ask him what he wants to get her and let him choose. I will also write a card to her from him only, let him dictate what to say.

I did the same for my STBXW's 40th back in August, he chose a red t-shirt. But I also made the mistake of adding in an expensive gift voucher and put my name on the card, she didn't even say thanks.

Its a nice thing to do with your S and teaches the joy of giving. Not doing that would seem petty IMO.

Me: 41 W:42
T: 14 M: 11
S: 6

"What happened happened, and couldn't have happened any other way...because it didn't"