Making the best of the mess.

[97Hope]

Hello my old friends! I am divorced! (almost). My attorney insisted that I not post anything online here, stop posting on all social media etc. until after the divorce was final.

I think that was excellent advice as XH's attorney attempted to paint me as a lunatic.

Update: I filed July 2019, went to final hearing October 2020 - Covid19 and a deployment pushed things, and the fact that he didn't think I was entitled to 1/2 (eye roll here).

We did one mediation and it was a huge waste of money. Court was pretty bad but not as bad as I anticipated. To anyone looking at court, mediation, the whole process - breathe. Drink water. exercise (anything! it helps).

I moved out of the family home the end of October. I am now looking for a job as a cop! Oh...did I mention I enrolled in the police academy? LOL

I was looking for work in my field (anthropology) and could NOT find a job. I've always been passionate about criminal justice and last February I made the decision.

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. Seriously. It was so hard physically and mentally but it challenged me in ways I didn't know were possible.

I am so much stronger than the Hope I was almost 4 years ago when this all started.

I will update more as I am able. I just wanted to let my people here know that you helped me so much. I never stopped thinking about you. I did come here and tried to read your updates as much as possible and hated to not comment.

To anyone new here...you WILL be ok. No matter what. I truly believed that my X would have a change of heart, but I am ok. I have peace and I am actually better off mentally than the 3 years of busting. But I did it following the book and by listening to the 2x4's from my friends here.

Don't give up on yourself. Stay connected with your support groups wherever they are, however you must, and remember, you didn't break them, you can't fix them.

xoxo