I don’t want to hijack your thread, but thank you for posting about this. You really have me thinking — it’s quite different to know the OW personally. While the double betrayal felt twice as painful, I also never imagined her to be something better than she was. I knew her and she was a fuching mess of a person. I am not only saying that as a scorned woman, but this lady was the one we all knew and joked about as being the most messed up, crazy and all over the map “friend” in our circle. I made a lot of excuses for her bad behaviors for years! Because hey, that’s just how she is. She was the crazy one that did shocking things, she was the flirt and hypersexual and she was soooo damaged (her words) that she couldn’t share her feelings.
Yes, that certainly is how she is. Damaged. Now, I just trust if someone seems like a messy person, I accept what they show me and I just stay away. Now, because of this understanding, I have been able to create some beautiful friendships with some amazing women. But the trauma is real. I hope you can heal from that and find your people — they are out there :-)
Blu
Folks, if it looks like chit and smells like chit, don’t taste it, it’s chit!
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
