I agree that we all do it sometimes, and I can even see times when it would be the "right" thing to do, but in the context of a loving and committed relationship it is NOT right. In my case, I can't be *sure* that is what is going on, I was just wondering out loud. Unless I'm pretty sure it's the case, I would see confronting W as being probably useless and possibly hurtful, so I'd be naturally careful about that. She may not even see her behavior as hurtful, at least not consciously, but rather as a defense mechanism. She may not even be being P/A, she may simply not be picking up on cues from me - rather, I may be guilty of wanting her to read my mind! Just something I'm wrestling with...
