Scout's Emancipation

[may22]

Scout, what happens with the hearing without a parenting plan signed? I was under the impression that he could do another "kidnapping" type thing if you didn't have that signed, and you wouldn't have grounds to complain (or call the police or whatever). Am I misremembering that? If you go through the D decree, are you not obliged to give him any overnight visits at all?

And for Christmas-- does this mean you get S2 for Christmas Eve and he wakes up with you Christmas morning and then goes over to X's? yahoo!!!!!!

That indicates to me that patience and holding off on saying anything does seem to serve you... but I'd still be nervous without a signed parenting plan if it means he can pull another stunt like he did before. That would worry me.

I wonder... given all the recent communication if he doesn't want to sign the parenting plan because he doesn't want to be locked into weekly overnights? He only wants them when it is convenient for him? What if instead of demanding signature you said okay, do you mind signing and sending back the agreement, and confirming (if you are OK with this) that you are always good to take S2 anytime if things come up for X on his nights?

Gerda... I know I did take my H for granted and the SSM was really not okay. It had a lot more to do with me and how I saw myself than how I felt about my H. I do wish I had come across Michele's TED talk earlier (I have seen it now) and understood how important sex is in a MR. I really didn't get it. That all being said, I still liked getting dressed up and putting on makeup to go out with my H, and I'd still like to have an R with a man where I cared what he thought about how I looked and vice versa. If my H and I ever get to M2.0, or in my next R with a man regardless, I would want to keep things sexy and fun at some level, not get totally buried again in the motherhood and work stuff, and keep in mind that I'm a woman as well as a mom. I just really bristle at the idea that a woman SHOULD do that to keep a man, that it is somehow legitimate to cheat on your wife if she "lets herself go." But I absolutely agree with you that in a healthy MR each partner spends time and energy ensuring the other feels loved and cherished, and that is one way to show you care.