Checked out by a mental health professional, May? Haha. I told X that I hadn't respected him as the head of the family when I was trying to get him back. This was when I was following the philosophy of someone else before I found DB. Cringe.
I actually received an email from X this morning about holiday plans-- NOT the parenting plan. He wants to take him for an adhoc Tuesday overnight next week for a family event. Then he cancelled his Christmas Eve visit citing his work schedule (complete with sad crying emoji that makes me think he's lying, but whatever).
I don't have a problem with any of this but the issue is he's completely ignoring the unsigned parenting plan. He wouldn't have to email to ask for an adhoc overnight if he just signed the damn thing. He could have every Tuesday overnight! I've been sliding back into complacency regarding my fears of non-return-- not trust, I do not trust him. But I've made it very clear what the consequences will be if he pulls another stunt like that, which gives me a certain amount of peace.
He also wanted to confirm the Christmas Day agreement "as discussed". This is part of the new parenting plan and so far I've pushed back on implementing anything in the new plan until he signs it. On his part, he's tried to circumvent this by implementing things that have not yet been legally enshrined. I think that's a VERY slippery slope. That's not how this works. It's not how any of this works!
Do I write back demanding signature? Do I run with my feelings of complacency? If, as it seems, X really truly doesn't want to care for S2 as per the new agreement, am I better off not forcing it and allowing adhoc visits and just being the single stable parent? The glaring problem is that without his signature, I don't have a legally enforceable agreement.
What do I dooooooo
Last edited by job; 12/15/2012:47 PM. Reason: removed name of an author not related to DB
