Which answers my question, don't bother asking anything because chances are you won't get the truth back in return.
If she admits to an affair, then what? Are you ready to pursue D? And if she doesn't admit to one, will you believe her? You see, it's a no-win situation. And merely bringing it up is applying pressure to her, which is anti-DBing. What she wants right now is zero pressure. Pull back. Give her time and space.
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I just booked a cabin for a few days down by the ocean. Need a place other than the studio to get away. Not going to give her any details other than I'll be out of town those days. I don't want to play games but I also don't feel like she deserves to know what I'm doing at this point.
That sounds good, I'm assuming you're doing this on a week that she has the kids. And if so, then go for it. That time is your own and you don't owe her any explanations.