Our therapist has an assignment for us to write three things we need from the other for the holiday season, and three things we can give to them. I am totally empty on this. I don’t know what I need from him. I’ve worked hard to need nothing. Expect nothing. My H mumbled it doesn’t have anything to do with our relationship. I said I think it just depends on what you need. I am so determined to enjoy Christmas with my kids.
Yeah this is tough. The problem with most MCs is they do not know how to handle couples where one or both has checked out of the MR. So the homework assignments and exercises are about reconnecting. The last thing a checked out spouse wants. Our MC was really good at detecting that my W was checked out and tailoring her approach to that. It turned into IC for me (the checked in spouse) with my WAW present. Until she was ready to engage and then it transitioned into more of traditional MC. That sounds like what is going on with your MC, he isn't getting that you aren't at a place where reconnection can work.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
