Thank you guys for the responses. VERY insightful.

I have been giving this more thought this morn and here is what I came up with:
He knows what I am doing. However, he has this weird low esteem hangup/shyness about sex/awkward with being in the aggressive role thing going on.
So he probably enjoyed it but it, in and of itself, was not enough to get his motor runnin. For that, he needs verbal confirmation of what I want. Then he feels "safe" enough to proceed with his own desires and wants. Up until that point, he'd rather stuff his own desires than be upfront and run the risk of being the only one who's horny. (THIS IS WHAT I DON'T UNDERSTAND ABOUT LD PEOPLE) There is no risk of him being the only one! And yet this fear is so strong and so real that he'd rather forego sex altogether than be wrong.

Now, to be fair to him, I always go bottomless at night with jammies on and naked in bed. So me showing up to watch TV like that is not a "sign" all by itself.
However, he had told me the NIGHT BEFORE that one of the things on his Sexy List was to show up in front of him, when he was watching television in only a robe and open the robe and stand there and let him look at me. I reminded him that, if he were sitting down and I was standing up, that at this point the main thing he would see would be the pg belly. He said, oh yeah, well forget that for now. (as I have said before, the belly does a number on his sex drive)
So upon thinking about it, I thought this might be the next best thing. He still gets to see the goods but the belly is covered.
BUT, you see, the missing element was me showing up in front of him and being BLATANT about it. Just sitting down next to him in a state of undress does not make it clear enough what he is supposed to be feeling about my actions. He could be wrong...so he does nothing.

Either that, or he just was not turned on by me. Which the mosquito inspection would certainly suggest. Oh well, I'm not going down that road.

Here is further proof of my theory: I can be doing the same exact action but if I say, I want you, then he is all hot and bothered. If I say nothing then he feels no desire. I think he has gotten lazy and become dependent on me to put HIM in touch with his own desire.

How do I get out of this cycle? Anyone? Bueller?

(that was for you, Scott, since you seem to know a lot about movies, even obscure ones. Oh wait, it was sci-fi! No WONDER you remember it! LOL)