After re-reading this whole thing. I think my goals got lost in the sauce a little.
My wife is obviously hurting. The things on her plate are a lot of 44 year old woman style problems coupled with military life problems.
She's manifesting this unhappiness right now. Maybe it's an MLC, maybe it's a meltdown, maybe it's just a reaction to circumstances. Whatever the case, I've relayed the particulars of that situation in the first post.
I want to help my wife through the pain that she's going through and heal our marriage. I want my friend and lover back. Most of the replies thus far have not been helpful but that could be down to my poor communication and assumptions in posting.
Also, I may or may not have snooped on OM today and noticed his .mil email address suddenly shows him in Japan. I don't know if it's outdated from a previous tour or if he was sent there because of this situation. If that's the case, then at least I get a laugh out of this situation.
