Little update. Been so busy, which can only be a good thing.

Work has been good, and got a pay rise a month ago. Studying for a higher qualification at work too, which is going well. Less stress overall and more confidence are helping me put the hours in.

Exercising is going well. I now do 75 push-ups of various types (3x25) each morning having gradually built that up over several weeks, an abs workout daily, then another specific workout five times a week (say chest/triceps on Monday, legs on Tuesday, etc.). Really nice to see progress there. Considering 18 months ago I hardly exercised at all, I feel I’ve covered lots of ground.

It’s been a tough year with D happening in February, losing the house, and then dealing with Covid like everyone else. However, I have definitely made so many improvements to my mindset and attitude that I had to take a step back recently and realise how far I’ve come since my first couple of threads on here. I was so nervous, afraid of communicating how I felt, and had a low opinion of myself for so many years, which led to problems. Now I feel that part of me no longer exists. I’ve learnt a lot about how I acted the way I did when I was younger and in my early adult life, and reasons that contributed to all that. The changes are going to be permanent as I’m enjoying them.

Single life at the moment is bright!


Me - 36, W - 32
No kids
T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr
Discovery - 14 May 2019
S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019
D & House sale final - Feb 2020