I just read through your sitch. Glad to hear you and your W avoided divorce, and thanks for coming back a year later to post a follow-up. It would be great if you could return periodically to keep us updated on any successes, difficulties and lessons learned as you two work on reconciling.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21