I don't know what that means, I just know it would be wrong. I'm not gonna lie, it helped my ego and it got her out of my head, but I'm smart enough to know it wasn't right.
Hopefully you got that out of your system and can set the whole dating thing aside for now. Rest assured that if and when you do decide to date, there are plenty of options out there. Just as many will be there a year from now, so there's no need to go rushing into something you're not ready for. I started dating about a year after BD because I thought I was ready. 6 months later I realized I had not been ready at all, but it was only with the benefit of hindsight that I could see that. And then another 6 months later I realized I STILL had not been ready. If I had it to do over again I would have waited the full 2 years. It may not be the same for everyone, but it took me that long to heal and get over my XW and be ready to open up to someone else. We often say to be patient, we're not just talking about be patient with the WAS. We mean with yourself as well.
