DB coach and I don’t think there is anything to gain by outing her at this point, but don’t lie for her. My evidence is the overheard bubble bath conversation and by snooping I found an I love you card to om in her purse. She’s was reckless during the bubble bath, but is pretty discreet, but I can tell because she always dolls herself up when she’s going out, but doesn’t stay out late. I think om is married. Usually kids are over at friends house when she does this. Kids really love and respect their mom, and this would crush them, and might been seen as vindictive on my part. When I confronted her in October, W said the only way kids would think She is having an affair is if l (Nick) planted the idea.
SIL and I get along well, the problem is nobody would believe it. I think proactively involving her has potential to backfire .
When DB coach brought up possibility of an affair, I said not a chance. Well, I was wrong as are most newcomers.
Besides the affair, she really is model mother, and was a good W. The funny thing is, I didn’t find out about affair until 3 months after BD. Up until that point I was taking all the blame for the marriage and validating like crazy. Once I found out, I’m like, hey, I’m not the bad guy here
I spent yesterday pulling financials together. It doesn’t benefit me to file yet, and she’s not spending as far as I can tell, so I’m not rushing anything.
