Pack, as LH said, great news about your son but why would you ask her if she wants to grab lunch? I'm glad you are being honest with us here but try to remember Sandi's advice and comments. Your W has treated your horribly yet you still offer her lunch? Surely you must know that is pursuit by now? I was as shocked as Sandi when I read you have been telling your W you love her(wtf!) and she mocks you. Is it perhaps because people here have said keep it business like and you thought having lunch together could be considered business?

I took my XW out to lunches and dinners throughout my entire sitch almost and I deeply regret that today. Yet my XW was never hateful towards me, we enjoyed each others company until the very end. But that should never have happened. It was nothing but cake eating and I only made things worse.

I'm worried what would happen if your W would soften up and want to hang out with you or worse, call you one day crying and say she regrets everything and wants to get back together.

Think about that for a moment, what would you do if that happened? Because if you are already being this nice after all she has done, I have a feeling you would forget DB in an instant and welcome her back with open arms setting yourself up for BD 2. Her anger towards you is so intense right now but things could change down the line. What would your reaction be then?

Last edited by BenB; 12/11/20 10:32 AM.
Me: 38
Stbxw: 35
No kids
Mini bd: February 6, 2019
ONS confirmed Sept 7, 2019
Told her to move out: September 8, 2019
W moved out: September 28, 2019
Divorce filed by me: September 23, 2019