Quote: My question is would the guys mind having sex while their wives were on their period?
I would like it if she wanted to do it but this is a sensitive boundary that I'm not going challenge any time soon. We used to do it and it was fine and it physically felt a little different...like using KY. When ML, I like to vary positions to get the porno-cam-visuals, but when we used to do this, I didn't look because it is just a little scary to see mr. winkitydink looking like he got into a knife fight. In other words, I'm ambivalent enough to not mind the lack of sex during her P, but I am very passionate that we need to be doing something else physical and/or erotic.
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Due to variations in internal anatomy it just felt a lot better to f**k certain women than others. Is this true? If so, how much would it matter?
"The Coat Closet" - Normal door, fairly tight, cozy and consistent "The Sauna" - Small door (tighter pc muscles), fairly tight, cozy and consitent "The Bomb Shelter" - Small door, tight, hard and somewhat painful "The Nightclub" - Normal door, cozy, normal tightness, variations of nooks and outcroppings "The Arena" - Small door, vast expanse beyond. "The Pavilion" - Large door, vast expanse
I'm sure there are more...this was all I could invent in 2 minutes. I've had experiences with most of these and it's not a problem except that the owners of the Arena and Pavillions should probably try to do some PC muscle exercises more frequently. These also seem to change based upon frequency (I hate to say it but it is true that gals actually "loosen" up).
My Madlib:
I'd really like to eat her bicycle.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
Quote: There's nothing Mrs. Roperish about him acknowledging that he WANTS to ML and WANTS foot rubs rather than acting like a passive partner who's reluctantly allowing these things he asked for to be done to him.
Ahhh...the classic passive/aggressive response...I want to but can't quite admit to wanting to. It puts him in a position of vulnerability amd gives you some control over his emotional wellbeing. It also gives him an out if he should ever need it. They need to be able to turn their desires around on someone and call them demands.
Quote: So, even though he hadn't talked to me all week, he knew I wasn't holding a grudge or sulking, that I wasn't rejecting him, and that I was still standing by promises I'd made him. And, I woke up in the morning with him wrapped around me and we made love.
You're a smart lady. The trick to dealing with someone who will use their own desires as a weapon against you is to set boundaries and inforce them without causing feelings of rejection. Sounds like you accomplished that!!
I wish my eyes had been as wide open as yours seem to be during my marriage. My ex used a lot of the same behaviors with me. He now uses it with his children. He just can't admit to wanting them in his life, would rather do without them than show emotional vulnerability. He will hurt them intensely to keep from feeling pain himself.
Basically EO, I think what you are doing is showing your husband how to take responsibility for his own desires and needs. It's the only way either of you will ever get what you need out of the marriage. Like I've already said, you are a smart lady. Cathy
"When the satisfaction or security of another person becomes as significant to one as is one's own satisfaction or security, then the state of love exists." --Harry Stack Sullivan
I put this on our refrigerator and my W said she really likes it.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
Mojo, It defintely would not bother me to have sex during her period. We used to during the horny early days of the marriage. I always said that she should be on top so that it wouldn't mess up the bed. I also was open to oral on her at that time too. She would make sure that I wouldn't head out with some "red" in the mustache.
At this point she is not currently open to it, although I always wondered if a orgasm would help her with the times that she gets cramps/and other issues at that time. So far we've not done any experimentation to see if that works.
Scott -Who got laid over the weekend, even though he was not expecting it.
"Satisfaction is not guaranteed." Rule #19 Ferengi "Rules of Acquistition"
Quote "Scott - Who got laid over the weekend, even though he was not expecting it."
Horray for Scotty!
Some Scotty quotes for you to enjoy during your afterglow! "I've given her all she's got captain, and I can't give her no more." "Any man who could perform such a feat, I wo'd na dare disappoint." "I can give you inpulse power in a couple minutes." "The engine imbalance is what caused the worm-hole in the first place. It'll happen again if we don't fix it." "How many times da I have to tell ya...the right tool for the right job!" "I canny hold her much longer captain". "She won't take much more of this." SD - "Set a course for home Mr Sulu"
Mojo, The Ode to Bryan...did you do this as a part of foreplay or as an event unto itself?
Also how complicated was it to do? I was looking at the illustration and thinking that once I got the rhythm down, I'd be okay. Unfortunately I may need the book there at first to get going and make sure I'm doing it right (do I sound like an idiot or what) and that would ruin it for H. He would stop everything if he caught me lookin at a book for instruction! It would make the whole thing feel unnatural to him. Sigh.
So I gotta get it down pat before I even start. On the bright side is that he is open to trying it and sounded excited. One more question: Do you sit between his legs facing him?
Hi Honeypot, I'm not Mojo, but I've been using the Ode to Bryan move on my husband for the last 3 years (for you guys out there who don't know what we're talking about, it's a hand technique from Lou Paget's book for women, How to Be a Great Lover, that was taught to her by a gay friend named Bryan).
To get your thumbs in the right position, you have to face your husband. I sit or kneel between his legs facing him with him lying or sitting on the bed or on the edge of the bed (could also do this standing). Paget suggests practicing on a cucumber or something like that (all you need is a cylindrical object that you can stroke up, over the top, and down the back), but we first did this with him holding the book, reading the directions to me, and showing me the illustrations until I "got it" at which point he couldn't hold the book anymore. It was a little awkward at first, but once you get it, it feels very natural and rhythmic. The thing that seemed to be hardest for me to "get" at first was the initial hand position (seemed more natural to reach out like holding a glass whereas with this technique, you turn your hand so the back of your hand is facing you with the thumb on the bottom). It's also a much lighter touch than what men use on themselves (at least based on my experience). Best of all, because it's a move that uses your hands and wrists rather than your whole arm, you can do it for a very long time without getting tired. But, if your husband's at all like mine, he won't be able to hold out for more than a few minutes.
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. C. S. Lewis
I didn't get a chance to practice, so I just did it one- handed relying on memory and that was good enough . The first time I did it, I used it as the main event,just using my mouth at the tip near the end to avoid a "mess". I've used it since as foreplay. I've sort of adopted it as my new standard for "hand work".
As long as we're back on this topic, I should tell you I found a successful "on top" groove also. I had to be much more horizontal than usual and rely on my H to help me move my hips with his hands. This worked great and he even came before me which is unusual.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
. The first time I did it, I used it as the main event,just using my mouth at the tip near the end to avoid a "mess". I've used it since as foreplay. I've sort of adopted it as my new standard for "hand work".