Hi Honeypot, I'm not Mojo, but I've been using the Ode to Bryan move on my husband for the last 3 years (for you guys out there who don't know what we're talking about, it's a hand technique from Lou Paget's book for women, How to Be a Great Lover, that was taught to her by a gay friend named Bryan).
To get your thumbs in the right position, you have to face your husband. I sit or kneel between his legs facing him with him lying or sitting on the bed or on the edge of the bed (could also do this standing). Paget suggests practicing on a cucumber or something like that (all you need is a cylindrical object that you can stroke up, over the top, and down the back), but we first did this with him holding the book, reading the directions to me, and showing me the illustrations until I "got it" at which point he couldn't hold the book anymore. It was a little awkward at first, but once you get it, it feels very natural and rhythmic. The thing that seemed to be hardest for me to "get" at first was the initial hand position (seemed more natural to reach out like holding a glass whereas with this technique, you turn your hand so the back of your hand is facing you with the thumb on the bottom). It's also a much lighter touch than what men use on themselves (at least based on my experience). Best of all, because it's a move that uses your hands and wrists rather than your whole arm, you can do it for a very long time without getting tired. But, if your husband's at all like mine, he won't be able to hold out for more than a few minutes.
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. C. S. Lewis
