You are absolutely right. There's nothing you can do to alter what narratives your X gives to your kids.
I think I mentioned my parents' D in your thread before. It was an ugly nasty thing in which each side fed their warped narratives to us kids in an attempt to justify their actions.
You are also right that the best thing you can do is stay above that drama and do what you can to remove yourself and your kids from that as much as possible. It's not the easy path. Not at all. But it is the way that will allow your kids to see in their own time that there is incongruity between what they are being told and what is reality.
