This is well stated. However, I think the reason that second marriages (and third and fourth) divorce rates continue to climb is that most people do not put the work in to change themselves for the better. We are seeing a spat of that on this site right now. Where LBSs that struggle with GAL and detachment, turn around and jump right into another R with someone new. When that happens they are really setting themselves up for a future BD, and the divorce stats for 2nd marriages and beyond bear that out.
If people would take the time to learn from their mistakes, correct them, and move forward, they still may not save their first MR, but they will certainly set themselves up for the potential for a successful second marriage. What Michelle says is dead on accurate....when the LBS does the work required they will make a fantastic spouse for someone.
Steve, the context for Michelle's quote was that some men appear to be -- or just downright ARE -- so stubborn and set in their ways that their wives think they are hopeless. The men refuse to go to counseling, refuse to communicate or relate to them, refuse to be different at age 55 or 60 than when they were at 25 or 30. The wives give up and walk. Who can blame them?
But Michelle is saying that the husbands ARE recoverable, and can change, but only when they are brought to the depths by the real chance of losing the woman they love. It's just that some of the women wouldn't believe it to be possible after a 20- or 30-year marriage.
