Everyone comes out on the other side of the sitch wondering how they let it get so bad for so long. That's water under the bridge homegirl.
When you start going down the dark road, turn the lights on and notice the signs telling you to turn around.
I remember the feeling that I wanted to die, that I was so hurt by my W leaving and her affair. Looking back at it, "That which hurts, instructs." You live and you learn. Joy wouldn't feel so good if we never experienced pain. You appear to have lots to be grateful for. Think about that. Find good things in your life and be happy with them. Make great things happen.
I hope this isn't patronizing or insensitive, but I think you have a lot of good going for you and want to see you happy. Merry Christmas.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.