There's another thing Michelle said that doesn't get talked about much here on the forum; I've mentioned it before without a lot of replies. She said that in situations like mine, the man is brought down so low, that he is finally driven to change things he never would have considered doing before. Just like my 180s mentioned a couple posts ago. She said she had seen it in her practice. Sometimes it's not too late, and the marriage makes it. Other times the WAW just won't give the husband a chance, period, and the marriage dissolves, but the poor fellow makes a fantastic second husband to someone else. That's my hope now. I do not want to spend the rest of my life alone. But even more than that, I do not want to ever be divorced a second time. Steve's statistics, that 50-60% of 2nd marriages end in a divorce, terrifies me.
This is well stated. However, I think the reason that second marriages (and third and fourth) divorce rates continue to climb is that most people do not put the work in to change themselves for the better. We are seeing a spat of that on this site right now. Where LBSs that struggle with GAL and detachment, turn around and jump right into another R with someone new. When that happens they are really setting themselves up for a future BD, and the divorce stats for 2nd marriages and beyond bear that out.
If people would take the time to learn from their mistakes, correct them, and move forward, they still may not save their first MR, but they will certainly set themselves up for the potential for a successful second marriage. What Michelle says is dead on accurate....when the LBS does the work required they will make a fantastic spouse for someone.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
