Hey Salty, sorry that you are going through this tough time. Whilst our situations are identical, there are some things that do resonate with me.
I read through your thread and was going to comment on how similar some of our current situations are! Best of luck to you man.
Originally Posted by OnlyBent
I too used acts of service to show my love but what was needed was words of affirmation and quality time. My W, could not for the life of her see how the nice things I did was me showing her love.
Oh boy, can I identify with this. I think lately as we've tried to work on things she can now at least see I was trying (before she thought I just didn't care at all which blows me away!) but it still doesn't fulfill any of her needs knowing I was trying. It was like trying to get an unleaded car to run on diesel - doesn't matter how much you fill the tank up, it ain't gonna work.
Originally Posted by OnlyBent
I’m no vet here, but I do know that so far what has helped, is not deciding whether you want her back or not, but accepting that what you had is gone and the rest is out of your control.
