Hey Eyes, I've been really enjoying your posts but I have to chime in with Nop here and say that a different approach to this conflict might be the best thing.
Cause the thing that was jumping out at me in regards to the argument was how Mrs. Roper-ish your husband was forced to act in order to ML to you that morning. Is this really what you want? You said that if he ever put you in that position ONE TIME (which I think it is kinda unproductive to put such stringent rules on relationships, don't you?) that it would be the last time.
You know, we all make mistakes and we all say and do dumb things and even things that we don't necessarily mean--which I'm sure he didn't mean that you demand to give him foot rubs, that's asinine! It sounds to me as if he was just spouting off and trying to get under your skin.
I know it upset you and hurt you, but I would also bet that (based on your description of yourself taking "baby steps") that there have been times when your own performance as a wife has been less than stellar. I guess I am saying that we all need to cut our spouses some slack sometimes and make CERTAIN that we are not treating them in a way that we ourselves would never tolerate.
Just my two cents!
P.S. I want you to know that I say these things from a position of a wife who does indeed have a track record of being a not so stellar wife, at times. That's why I felt entitled to make that comment.
