Quote: I'm still taking baby steps, and as the LD spouse my goals and baby steps are different and, in many ways, easier than MegaMojo's and yours regarding sex in our marriages.
Actually, I still think many on this board are too hung-up on labels like LD or HD. In my M, we actually have differences in desire levels on many different things. When it comes to sex, I have a higher level of desire than my W. When it comes to decorating the house, SHE has the higher level of desire. When it comes to gardening, we are BOTH LD. Each of us is a complex person, and we experience a full range of desire on lots of different topics.
If you want a label, I think the one I'd hang on YOU would be HD - "Highly Differentiated". I think that's a label that would stick. In that regard, at the moment I'm PD (Poorly differentiated) but I'm working on it. Actually, based on your post, I'd say you're a High-Definition person.. you know who you are, what your goals are, and you have known these things for some time. By contrast, I have, until much more recently, lived my life much more day-by-day, without planning much past the end of my nose. I'm trying to learn better habits, but of course it's difficult. However, it does give me something interesting to do...
