I'll echo everyone else's comments and say thanks for posting. It's great to advice from someone several years post-BD. I've re-read it several times and now plan to go through your previous threads when I get a chance.
I find it interesting your Ex came back after an entire year, sincerely apologized, and you tried to reconcile but she again reverted. How long did the "genuine" last until the issues re-surfaced?
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
