Quote: You are possibly one of the most "together" people here.
Tim, I wish. I'm still taking baby steps, and as the LD spouse my goals and baby steps are different and, in many ways, easier than MegaMojo's and yours regarding sex in our marriages. Michele's KLA (keeping love alive) tapes are very helpful for setting goals and looking for solutions (Like MM, I'm a bookworm and love reading, so I didn't expect to get much out of the tapes since I have most of Michele's books; but listening to the tapes repeatedly seems to work better for me in reinforcing changes). I've been listening to them repeatedly for several weeks now, and I've discovered that many of her ideas are finally staying "up front" in my head so that I don't simply react with the same old ineffective patterns of behavior as before.
I wish I'd been "together" enough to have realized that my allusion to Mrs. Roper in and of itself could have provoked negative emotions in MM and other wives with LD husbands (even with a HD husband, I had already told my husband that I would stop initiating if he ever did something that made me feel like TV's Mrs. Roper).
Anyway, I'm going to start my own thread so that MM's won't be hijacked.
BTW, my husband returned last night from his trip after not talking with me since leaving and didn't say anything to me until this morning. We ML this morning, but he did have to ask. It took several tries where he first kept asking if I wanted to, if I felt like it, or if it would make me feel good before he finally sighed and said "Can I f--k you?" Later, I explained that he doesn't literally have to ASK every time; he can say what HE wants, he can initiate since I respond easily and I've already promised that I won't turn him down, or he can ask. But, at this point, I won't let him put me in a position where he can later claim that I was DEMANDING since I don't trust him about that right now unless he apologizes and promises not to accuse me of making DEMANDS when I make open-ended offers to him of nonsexual and sexual physical touch.
Even if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there. Will Rogers
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. C. S. Lewis
I'm still taking baby steps, and as the LD spouse my goals and baby steps are different and, in many ways, easier than MegaMojo's and yours regarding sex in our marriages. Michele's KLA (keeping love alive) tapes are very helpful for setting goals and looking for solutions (Like MM, I'm a bookworm and love reading, so I didn't expect to get much out of the tapes since I have most of Michele's books; but listening to the tapes repeatedly seems to work better for me in reinforcing changes). I've been listening to them repeatedly for several weeks now, and I've discovered that many of her ideas are finally staying "up front" in my head so that I don't simply react with the same old ineffective patterns of behavior as before. 
