KC, 2 things (I know I said I'd stay away from your sitch, but I can't help but try one more time):.
I'll mirror Steve and go on record to say that your healing/working on yourself officially stopped the second you started dating the pilot. You are no longer healing, you simply changed your obsession from your H to the pilot. You've stunted your growth.
You have another BD in your future, Kit. And you did it to yourself.
