Wow - I can't believe it's been over 6 months since I've posted here, but I just started reading the board again last night and am recognizing how helpful it's been. A lot has happened since then. I confirmed that there was a PA with OM1 which ended in August, which has since ended, but that immediately transitioned into what is at least an EA with OM2. The clear message here is that my WW doesn't want to be with me, which is very obvious to everyone, and she has said she has no desire to work on our MR, but that the PA and EA have nothing to do with that (which I don't think is true, but that's not for me to decide). I've been focused on GAL for myself and for my children, but man has it been tough. WW is still living in the basement, and when I told her that I think she should move out because she clearly doesn't want to be here, she asked me why I shouldn't move out instead. I'm here at least 12 hours every weekday with the kids, so it's not really feasible for me to do that even if I wanted to.

She has expressed a desire to spend more time with just her and the kids, which I can respect, but I've told her that will require her actually spending the time with them when she's at the house rather than disappearing. I'm now setting up a schedule for that, and we've also set up a meeting with our financial advisor to figure out how to split out our current finances. My hope is that this can lead to a physical separation with her getting her own place.

All that said, while I think there is a slim chance that a MR at some point in the future, I'm now at the place where I don't think it's best. My main reason for wanting it to work recently has really been because of thinking about the effect on the kids, but I recognize that me being happy and showing them that love, regardless of the MR, is the best outcome.

So all that to say, I'm glad that things are at least moving forward rather than being in a state of limbo - it actually feels good to be talking about, well, anything at all. So I'm going to continue down this path and see where it goes...