I didn't mean to imply that you offended me with the Mrs. Roper comment. I was just explaining that the Mrs. Roper thing sort of stikes a raw nerve with me and that's why I might have been unwarrantedly curt in my previous reply.
Quote: But, looking back, what I did have was financial and emotional independence, confidence, and a "no third chances" attitude for bad behavior
I think I really understand your take on things now. You sound like someone who is very smart and very "differentiated" also. You are just encouraging me to become more "differentiated" myself, not advising that I play the role of manipulative bitch to get my way. In fact, being a nice person has little to do with being a "push-over".
Quote: if at first you don't succeed, then try something different (which might even entail something other than coming up with new and novel positions that he feels free to critique and reject without trying or explaining why)
Right again. If I really prefer that he do the initiating I should make that clear and only be "over-the top" seductive if I'm in the mood to respect his preference in that regard. Besides, I know that my bedroom technique isn't really the problem. It's just easier to concentrate on that then what might really be going on.
Quote: Sometimes it sounds as though this is very black and white with HDs being good and LDs being bad.
I don't feel that way at all if I'm being rational about the matter. It's just that sometimes I let myself get spitting mad at my H about this problem and others who are unfortunately labeled LD may think this reflects on them. I always try to work with the hypothesis that LD women are basically the same as HD women when I offer advice to the HD men. I try to think of situations in which I might feel LD and what a guy could do to rectify the situation.
Really, I sincerely thank you for your input. Sometimes it's a bit like the blind leading the blind on this board and what you had to say was very relevant.
MegaMojo (soon to be JustJenny a nice woman but not a push-over, usually found wearing t-shirts and overalls with a pencil stuck in her hair, who likes books, gardening, old house renovation and swimming and really, really likes being f**ked on a Saturday night to the extent that she happily dresses up in high heels and a biker bra if that's what it takes .)
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
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