So today I helped D 21 make her first lasagna. W came home and D21 gave her some. But I didn’t give her any garlic bread because I didn’t make enough for her. So there!
Nick, I am seeing a pattern here. "She can't have any of my fries!" "I didn't make enough garlic bread for her!" I understand that you are just doing your own thing, but the fact that you are consciously, it seems, being passive-aggressive with this stuff means you may be looking at how to detach in the wrong manner. Being petty and passive-aggressive is not the right approach to this. I would just be careful because this can come back to haunt you later.
I lived by the motto, in my IHS, to "kill her with kindness". To recompense evil with good. To be the bigger person and to take the high road. The kind of thinking I am detecting with some of this can lead you down the wrong path. "Well if she has someone else then I will go out and get someone else to show her how it feels!"
I would read Sandi's rules. I would get to know them and let them guide you in your interactions with your W. If you and your D knew that there would be plenty of lasagna for your W, there would be nothing wrong or anti-DBing about making sure there was also enough garlic bread for her too. I have no problem with not getting her Five Guys the other day because, as you pointed out, she isn't normally home that early. So just make sure that when you are tempted to do or not do something to weigh it and make sure it isn't just pettiness or passive-aggressiveness that is guiding your actions.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
