Interesting thought. Doesn't low testosterone affect your sex drive and "ability"? I may have turned 50, but I'm happy to say that I'm still good there.
It should but I have a high sex drive despite low levels. When I checked I had 12 nmol/l which would qualify me for TRT in USA but not where I am now where you have to be below 10 nmol/l. Which raises the question, if I have this high sex drive now, what would happen on TRT. Anyway, just a thought of course.
The rest of your post I can relate so well. Validation was so new to me and when I first saw an opportunity to do so, it felt so fake, scripted almost because I was saying lines I have read in the validation thread here. But I hope to be better and better at it. Becoming good at validating will make you almost unique compared to most people(unfortunately).
Even among friends and family I notice how often you share something and they subconsciously invalidate, not knowing what that does. You don't feel heard. But I don't blame them because I was like them for so long. So imagine doing that for years or even decades to ones partner. I can easily see how I contributed to the downfall of my relationship by learning how important validation is.
It's almost two years now since BD for me and I wonder as well if that feeling of melancholy will ever go away. Reading posts like yours sure help though, knowing you are not alone.
Last edited by BenB; 12/08/2011:50 AM.
Me: 38 Stbxw: 35 No kids Mini bd: February 6, 2019 ONS confirmed Sept 7, 2019 Told her to move out: September 8, 2019 W moved out: September 28, 2019 Divorce filed by me: September 23, 2019
