Quote: Could he be trying to control his own sexuality, as opposed to trying to control you? Sortof a way of saying, This belongs to ME not you, Mo
That doesn't seem quite right. I'm really not that aggressive. My style in the past has generally been to try to initiate maybe once every two weeks and then cry by myself if I'm rejected. I've only directly confronted him about it a few times a year. I don't think that line of thought would have occurred to him except maybe recently when I confronted him about the porn.
Quote: like a lot of men, reacts VERY strongly to the thought of being controlled and will withhold from me what I want if he thinks that I am being manipulative in getting it
Yes, my husband is very "oppositional"in that way too, but I think it's ridiculous if just knowing that I want more sex is causing him to almost never want to give it to me. I shouldn't have to use reverse psychology on him like a three year old.
I like your method of letting your H know that you are going to be unhappy if you don't get sex whether or not you act mad, but it still comes down to the same old thing we keep hitting our heads against on this board- What is the consequence of such behaviour?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
