WAW w/Exit Affair or WW? - Don't Want Divorce (2)

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W filed her Statement of Net Worth with the court. No major surprises. She has a modest amount of money in checking/savings accounts, but although I've given her the equivalent of her mortgage and a new car payment in child support each of the last 6 months (despite caring for the kids more than her), she has racked up 3x that amount in credit card balances and a significant amount in loans for things like a central air system, new windows, elective surgery...etc. She'll likely get a portion of cash in the settlement which will help defray those debts, but will likely start out in the red. Her mom/step-dad are well off though and will likely keep her on the payroll like they do with her younger brother (they're already financing her divorce lawyer).

W had been diverting money from her paycheck into a personal account during the first affair / in-house separation bragging to AP that I didn't even know (though I did), but it doesn't really matter from a legal perspective - it's marital property regardless. She also claimed ownership of a necklace I had made for her with my grandmother's/great-grandmother's diamonds, but is allowing me to hold onto it for safe keeping for my daughter (how generous).

The statement didn't estimate values for things like the houses, furniture...etc., so time will tell what the negotiations will bring. According to my attorney, we're waiting for her & her lawyer to make the first offer (as the plaintiffs). I had significant amount of pre-marital assets and fortunately we reside in an "equitable distribution" as opposed to a "community property" state, so thankfully I'll retain the vast majority of finances.