WAW Hired a Divorce Coach (Cont3.)

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ScottB,

Great to hear you're making the most of the time with your kids! I've found it's great bonding opportunity and can also be a bit of a distraction from the sitch. Keep making memories and being a great dad for them!

My daughter then went up to her room to do her homework. She has really been remarkably strong through all of this. I was going to work out in my garage but as I was picking up around the house I went up to her room to put some things away.

She started to get a bit hysterical out of the blue. She started crying about how she couldn't get all the homework done, how she didn't know where to start, and how it was just too much. I really tried not to solve her problem - I just tried to empathize and listen. Then she started crying harder and said she missed her mom. I said "I know, would you like to call her?" Then she said "but when I'm with her I miss you, I don't understand."

And then she just cried and I held her. She said she knew I wanted to work out and so she didn't want to bother me with her homework. I told her she is never bothering me and I stayed up in her room and helped her with her homework for about an hour. It was heartbreaking, but wonderful - just connecting with her and showing her I could be there for her, but so sad. She is hiding all of her feelings.

That's tough. Don't think I'll ever forget my S5 crying himself to sleep (in my arms) for 45mins after soccer when he missed mommy. Just keeping loving and being there for them.

Wednesday they are gone until the following Monday. That will be a long stretch but so far we've made the most of it of the time we've had. I've been fortunate as I've had the kids 14 of the last 18 days. I think I'll be okay for the stretch of 5 days - I know it will be emotional but I'm a little worn down as I've really put all my energy into them and doing everything is a lot.

I can relate! I bend over backwards for the kids and love the time with them but it can be very draining - I find myself sleeping pretty hard the night or two after they leave. LOL

Hang in there!