You actually navigated this quite well--you let her talk, you didn't parrot her lies, you didn't take the "bait" when she tried to get you to initiate an R-talk. I agree with Steve that her insistence about having this chat isn't a good sign, unfortunately. Hang in there! You still have an amazing daughter you love who loves you (teenagers don't always express it) in the running for valedictorian/salutatorian. Whether she makes it or not, that she's in the running shows that you are definitely doing something right.
