It is pretty common for our MLCer spouse to feel they have it all figured out. They force their smug wisdom upon the world, needing to show (themselves really) how good their new lives are.
My kids had their Mom attempt to give them relationship advice. OMG! LOL. Imagine, a married women having an affair and having throwing away her kids and marriage feeling she could and should dispense such wisdom. She raised four children with better morals than that! And it came right back at her. None of them would want a partner that would treat them as Mom treat me (or them). They do not listen to her counsel, and bluntly told her so.
That went over as well as one would expect. Mom blamed the kids and me. Stating it is the kids’ loss and they will be back. Of course, I was rather unenlightened at the time and told her she was behaving just like her Mom did to her. And it’s been 28 years since her Mom threw her away. Is she really planning to wait three decades until her own grandchildren are grown before she realizes how foolish she is being. (Hmmm, upon reflection maybe that wan’t so unenlightened after all )
Your children know who their role model is.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
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