One more think I’d like to add. Your W tried to get you into counseling, waited until your children were out of school and doesn’t appear to have another male.
That is a LBS dream for most of us.
Well, I didn't find DB until August this year, a full 11 months after BD, so I can't claim to have known anything about the principles of BD back then.
As I said a few posts ago in the previous thread, I did try the wrong things in the first 90 days but she was totally unresponsive, and actually played some dirty tricks with her attorney. Also, after those 90 days I did most of what DB recommends; dropped contact and focused on my own life.
But there has not been an iota of curiosity from her about me, unless it's through my kids and they're not telling me. So now that we are 14 months from BD day, still not talking, I can only assume -- as I did 10 months ago -- that she is done. Finished. Over.
