To answer everything in short, I will be fine even if I end up D with nothing from H. Will I be living the same way as before? No. But I can make it work. Fortunately H is not fighting me over custody so I don't have to worry about that. Whether I want to be in the US or here, I don't foresee it to be a big issue.
Update: I had my interview. phew!!! It went well and I'm talking to HR next about pay soon. I will be starting at the bottom, but this is a prestigious company that many people would kill to work there. Lots of changes are happening in the next few months!!
I bought a new little xmas tree with my kids few days ago. It's nothing compare to our old tree (H asked to come over and put up the old tree but I said no, so H took the tree to his place) but I'm loving it already. This is the kind of tree H would despise. S10 made a comment yesterday, "I think dad brags too much. He always keep saying that his cooking is the BEST and you can't find it anywhere else, and he also says that his tree is the BEST, there is no other tree like it here in this country" I chuckled and told him, "well your dad does cook pretty well, and the tree is pretty nice." On the inside I was proud of how observant S10 has become.
GAL really is the best thing you can do for yourself. My life is full, and it's good.