I dislike when people are labeled. People often do it as a tactic to shut down opposition or to win an argument. Instead of labeling him a misogynist, maybe we can respond to his individual posts and propose a better way of thinking.
I haven't read all of Tom's posts, but I did read some of his recent posts. I didn't see much that would make me think he's a misogynist--more like somebody who is deeply hurt and feels betrayed. There was one that made me cringe. It was his response to scout12. It wasn't so much where he was coming from, but I think Steve had a good response.
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It doesn't have to be gender specific. A husband can also change things for the benefit of his W. I think this is what you were getting at in your response to Scout. (For full disclosure, I am devoutly Christian, but unfortunately the "man is the head of the woman" belief is scoffed at in modern western societies.) The bald, Texan TV psychologist likes to say that if you want a better marriage, be a betters spouse! It takes someone that is deeply flawed (sociopath, psychopath, narcissist) to not respond positively to positive changes. So yes, being a better W can improve the marriage. Being a better H can improve the marriage.
People see the part about what a wife should do for her husband, but often forget what a husband should do for his wife. And vice versa. A husband should love his wife as he does himself, as Christ loves his Church. He must always, publicly and privately, honor his wife. He must protect her and her dignity. He must provide her spiritual leadership. And many more.
As husbands, I'm sure we've all failed our wives at some time.
