Maybe, but more often they don't. Just seems a bit strange coming here asking for advice and clearly making mistakes in ones own relationship, then offering clear instructions to others on what to do in their situations. It's one thing if you suggest GAL activities or even start the post by saying "I'm no expert but" as some newcomers here do, but you are giving detailed instructions.
These are people in tough situations that potentially have no idea you are a newcomer and potentially making life changing decisions based on what someone says who is far from ready to give advice. And frankly, the advice I've seen from you so far is terrible and reeks of misogyny.
The veterans here are vets for a reason, they have seen many, many sitches and their advice is based on what works.
Well, Ben, thanks for the dignified reply, your initial one made you sound like a hit-and-run critic.
In fact, most of the veterans here encourage the newbs to try out their newfound wisdom on those who are newer. So it's not that unusual.
But if you do me the privilege of reading my thread, you'll see that I grew a lot over the first 30 days. So if I was parroting some of it back to others, by early October, that shouldn't be surprising. The principles are actually quite simple.
Others (perhaps you are in this situation) view posts as a way to get commentary on their daily lives -- how buff they have gotten, the latest calamity with joint custody, or how frustrated they are with the latest missive from their ex. I didn't. I came here to learn, and learn I did, quite quickly. So .... cut some of us some slack. If news say something screwy, or wrong, or downright in opposition to DB principles, call us out. But otherwise, maybe a "thank-you" or a "nice insight" would be the right approach.
