New Beginnings

[CanBird]

I'm fairly new to the "BIG D" club. Oct 22, 2020. And during Covid! A whole different club right?

What can I say? I'm a single mom, 49, and have a D4.

*See timeline for details on BD from XH, beginning of 2019. I should write a book, as it reads like something that happens only in the movies. He was the one to leave. "I'm not happy....haven't been for 2 years. So basically when he became a father.... things changed (no kidding..duh...). He reached out to an XG from the past, who lives in another country and the rest is history. (see timeline for more details). For all of D4's life, XH remote work has supported us very well, although the trade off was him being remote, at sea, for 6 months or more out of the year. As I was busy being new mom, mostly alone, on an island, remote in my own way, but with wonderful supportive friends, we grew apart. I always thought he was stressed from work, and questioned the distance I felt growing when he was home. He always seemed to dismiss it, say sorry, it's not me it's him... No matter what the cause... D happened. And here we are.

I'm back in the workforce, of my chosen profession, after being out for sometime. Because XH's seasonal work has him away for 6months, although the D was final the end of Oct, and certain things we're outlined in the agreement, we are both working through things in the agreement. (ie.... he hasn't paid CS yet... , the house... I'm in it... we sell or I buy it). Cutting myself from any thing else that binds us... (ie phone plans, insurance: car, health). He's kept me on until I was able to get on my own a bit. He's been good to me throughout COVID, but now with him being done with his seasonal work, we'll see how things go.

So that's it really.

I'd LOVE to find love again, but for me, now is not the time (COVID makes that kind of hard). Not looking, but welcome any chance of course, from a distance... friends first... not a lot of choices either..lol...

Any way. I'll be chiming in more often and posting more too. Just been busy, adulting.

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