[DonH]

Take the focus off of dating for the present. It's too hard in a pandemic anyway. (Although you can screen future dates by asking them whether they wore a mask in the pandemic. All the Covid deniers you can eliminate in one fell swoop).

OMG SMH. Look at me talking in acronyms. LOL. Did it again. But seriously, tossing out the Trump supporters will already cut the prospect pool in half, then there is the ant-lock down crowd, or those who don’t worship at the mask alter, although I’m sure there will be some crossover there. Going to really make finding someone even harder, especially for those who believe it’s a numbers game, when half the group is dismissed out of hand.

GB, I get it. Ive been through it which is in part why I gave up on OLD long ago and do not regret it in the least. But there are still other ways and other potentials out there to meet people (as long as you’re not following advice to eliminate half the dating pool out of hand.) ghosting, not showing up , etc have become the norm. And the more it happens the more people think it’s normal and okay to do. Heck it was done to me so why shouldn’t I not do the same? I know you don’t think that way but many do. It’s clear there are many sheep out there who just follow the crowd and it becomes learned behavior.

But I’d hate for you to give up. Perhaps just alter your methods. And I do agree with KML to have someone help you. You’ve not posted a huge amount and it is all online so what can I know for sure but I do have to wonder if your picker is off? You may well be picking the wrong guys. Yeah, there are a lot of wrong guys to pick but you seem to maybe be attracted to them. I have to wonder how many good guys you might be passing by because they are not fitness models, athletes, musicians or firefighters (even though I am both lol) the more time passes the pickier many of us get. That effects things. It’s much harder to find the right fit in someone but it can be done. Don’t give up totally.