The loss of control and instability is what causes the LBS to go into fight or flight mode and do desperate things like beg, plead, try to manipulate to regain a sense of control.
This is the time to look inward and work on the root cause of why you are controlling. Control comes from fear and what you fear you attract. It’s time to open the cage door and let her go. Understand what you can control (you) and what you cannot (other people). Learn the difference between boundaries and ultimatums.
Remember that the person who cares about a relationship the least is in control. For a while that will be a bitter pill to swallow.
Time and space are the only thing that turns these around long term.
