Do you mean The Sex-Starved Marriage? I read The Sex-Starved Wife, and I heard that The Sex-Starved Wife is pretty much the same as The Sex-Starved Marriage. Basically, what I heard was if you replace "he/him/his" with "she/her/hers" in The Sex-Starved Marriage, you get The Sex-Starved Wife.
My husband tells me I am physically attractive but that he has no desire for sex with me due to my personality. I don't know if the effect on me is much better than if he told me he didn't find me attractive. I feel like he's basically telling me he doesn't find me attractive.
