One big reason Andrew... CV19. The place he was working has been shut down again. He, like thousands of other people in the big city, has been applying lots of places but his particular area is basically in a lockdown.
Anyway...I’m not worried about it AT ALL. For one...I am 100% financially independent and better off than a lot of working couples I know. Second...us moving in together and sharing bills is at least a few years away. Third...he would never be okay with not paying his share of the bills when/if we do eventually live together. He’s a guy’s guy that way and has a lot of pride in that regard. Fourth...he lost a lot in his divorce (as in she got almost everything) but he did well enough that he has no debts. He’s starting from square one again but at least he’s not in the hole. Basically, by the time his financial situation involves me in any way, I will know him really, really well.
TDH really is a great guy. He treats me very well. He thinks of his kids first and me second. This is way better than what I was used to where I was pretty much at the bottom of the priority list. I’m a caregiver so this is stepping outside of my comfort zone. TDH is too so we are in competition in that regard. When he has come over to visit and I’ve gone off to work, he isn’t sitting on the couch. He’s cleaning my house and making me dinner. He’s interacting with my MIL and SD and playing with my dog. The best part is... I don’t need to ask him to do these things, it’s who he is. One could argue that this is him trying to impress me. Could be but again... us living together is years away and the honeymoon stage can only last so long...even in a long distance relationship. So, IMO, the risk of me getting taken advantage of is low.
