Yeah, that argument was my backslip. I came out looking like a rage monster. D.oh. Wasn’t trying to use kids against her . I have studiously avoided any R talks and should have walked away.
Household finances are in my control. She always had separate bank account which snooping revealed had over 50k in it, so I know she’s good for money. She can move out anytime she wants. She has her own credit card which I signed her up for for the points but I don’t have access to. Spending does not seem to be an issue, but I’ll keep an eye out for.
I know I can’t fix it. I was determined to be a stander, but don’t if I can wait due to the years long timeline. I think she’s in replay.
I just retired in January and my plan was to travel with her so all plans are out the window.
