I slept on this and then wanted to add... I have 100% faith that you WILL get permanently to that place of enlightened compassion and be a beacon for others. It may just not be tomorrow, and there is no need to force it. It will come. I just think you need a bit more time to heal without H pressing on your bruises. xx
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing