My only suggestion is to see him as a guy you are considering dating. There is some potential there, but nothing is definite. You would never pretzel yourself like this with a guy you are considering. Don't do it with your H. I know it's so hard. But you should not be explaining yourself. No amount of explaining will ever satisfy him. Be busy and be breezy. If he wants to see you and you feel like it, do. If he acts like a jerk, just say, "Oh gosh, I don't want to hang out with you if you are going to act crazy" and pat his arm if you want and leave. LEAVE. The room, the restaurant, whatever it is. Don't participate in any drama. He is a teenager. And he is looking for reasons to hate you. No matter what you do, he will look for them and might believe them even if you are perfect.
Your child is amazing, amazing. My son understands everything but my D is selective and my H is working on her all the time, badmouthing me, so she is often confused, and I am often battling feelings that she is betraying me. Complicated stuff. So much easier when they can see things clearly.
Last edited by Gerda; 11/28/2005:31 AM.
I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord with courage. Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
