Yes, get the child support setup and automatic ASAP.
Getting your own phone plan is as you said, no big deal. And that is in the works.
Your divorce is final and now a month old. As to XH’s suggestions - follow the agreement. Anything verbal is as good as the paper it is written on. Do not make side deals.
I am confused with the allocation of assets. Do you both still own the house? Is the a provision for you to buy him out? Or him you? Or is it supposed to be sold?
The rental income was joint. However post divorce I would suspect your income streams would no longer be intertwined. With that in mind the agreed to 25% of the rental income used for upkeep and such, is confusing. Who owns the rental? Who’s income is it?
I see you realize the need for things to be in writing. And I realize you do not have a lawyer. Is this divorce agreement signed by a judge and final? It sounds a bit vague to me.
That being said. Do what the agreement states. Nothing more. You do not need or want to set a precedent.
If the other 75% is joint income, then let him claim his share and his share of the expenses. Do not use the rental income as child support directly. Have a paper trail showing his portion of the rental being paid to him and his payment of child support being paid from him. You don’t need anything that can come back on you later.
Did the contents of the house get split up? The cars? It is interesting XH pushing for you to buy the house. Is that something you are interested in? Do you want to keep the rental? Or could you keep the house and he gets the rental?
It appears that custody is to you. Do you have full custody? Or primary custody? Or something else?
It looks like items are still being negotiated. Although I may have read things incorrectly and these are already sorted out.
Originally Posted by CanBird
And I also look at things through his point of view too. He supported me 100% as a homemaker & stay-at-home mom for years, and that arrangement has changed.
You also supported him 100% by remaining at home which allowed him to be gainfully employed and advance his career. Do not sell your half of the contributions to your marriage for less than they are. You are entitled to support and your children are entitled to support.
All those years you remained at home, you could have been working and accruing a retirement nest egg and would now otherwise have a career with an income. However, you stayed at home and H financially support you, the kids, and the household. XH is required to continue supporting (for some amount of time, which depends upon the local laws).
Wait a good 48 hours before responding to XH. And talk things over with your Dad. And maybe a lawyer, just to have a professional opinion of the agreement.
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