What's New Today pt2

[CanBird]

I finally read XH's 7 msgs regarding child support.

My msg to him was a follow up, suggesting that auto payment be set up.

His reply: "That would be fine. Seems like you could use the rental income for that."
(We have a shared rental, that I manage. In our agreement, a portion of the income (25%) goes towards paying the loan we have on it. It was not stated, what is done with the other 75%. Verbal doesn't count for anything.)

"Otherwise, start putting that towards the loan 100%".
"I'm still going to have to pay the mortgage and the taxes."
"And insurance for the house and the cars".
"Are you going to get your own phone plan?"

"You should buy the house. Ask your dad to help you. Don't know how you expect me to survive when I'm paying everything."

"Or the house gets sold".

*He also mentioned he barely had any (cell phone) service do to the weather at the moment (" assuming he's still at work, remote in the middle of the sea...assuming"*


I don't know what to say in reply to this. He's says that would be fine... the auto pay, but then mentions using rental income to cover the child support. That's not what was in our agreement. However, that rental income IS income. It's been on our tax returns for over 8 years as other income. He COULD come back and say, "I want my half of the rental income".

As of right now, I have control over that rental income, as I am the only acting landlord. Legally, only 25% has to go towards the loan. The other 75%, we verbally agreed, goes towards bills for the rental & and any repairs. And whatever the main house needs.{payment of bills, repairs etc..I take care of the main house we reside in too.

(our mistake/my mistake not having it in writing.... boy oh boy I'm learning....COULD OF SHOULD OF...)

Mortgage payments, due to covid, are in forbearance. Partial payments, from "his account", have been sent. Yes, he has paid for other insurances.

Other points he brought up, me getting my own phone plan, it's in the works. No big deal there, I understand he just want to cut all ties, even though It doesn't cost him anything to have me on his plan. I look at these kind of things as business. And I also look at things through his point of view too. He supported me 100% as a homemaker & stay-at-home mom for years, and that arrangement has changed.

Thoughts? Not replying without hearing from the peanut gallery. I will be consulting with my father on this too.